5 Takeaways from the Art of Charm Podcast interview with Brett McKay

I look up to both of these guys. Having Jordan Harbinger and Brett McKay chop it up together for an hour was awesome. Here’s what I learned.

  1. Masculinity in Classical Greece was physical. Physical Strength is useful. This is manly because you can provide security to your family and friends. Increase you circle of protection. Barbell Training. I will look into the Starting Strength program Brett and Jordan talked about.
  2. Get outside of your head and just Act. I have heard around the web that confidence was not thinking. Just acting. When at the bar, its about just acting. Think afterword about what went wrong. Just starting is the hardest part.
  3. Me, Always, Everything think. Stop, and spin the box. Ask yourself questions. Is this really that bad? Have other people done this before? What can I learn from this? How can I slowly improve? Trust the Process and do what action you can take right now to get closer.
  4. Life isn’t about Facebook followers or personal branding. This blog isn’t about getting followers. I really only want to flesh out my ideas. When I write things down they stick.
  5. Be more useful. At work, at home and out with friends. I gained more satisfaction from fixing my creaky car door with some motor oil and a sander than I did skiing with my friend. Eliminating a small screeching door felt better in the long run. It’s about solving your problems and being better today than you were yesterday. I just got a promotion at work, and it’s important for me to learn everyday and get better. Lives are on the line.

Action items:

  1. Learn how to film youtube videos. Brett’s are really good.  His Grilling/Smoking series is awesome.
  2. Fix up my washer leak
  3. Fix my car headlight bulb

The Episode

 

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5 Takeaways from the Tim Ferriss Podcast with Neil Strauss

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Collectively Tim and Neil have 9 NYT Best Selling Books. I listened to this podcast while walking on the helipad after my shift at night. I had to stop and take notes on my phone because what they were saying struck a strong chord with me. I have used these tips to begin writing 20%-30% more daily. These tips are about time-management, creativity, and productivity.

The Podcast Episode
Make 3 drafts of your work

a. 1st draft is for you. No one else will see it. Be as honest as you possibly can with it.
b. 2nd draft is for your readers. Avoid making the cardinal sin in writing. Boring the reader.
c. 3rd draft is for your critics. Cut off your enemies at the pass. Have you research and arguments be rock solid.

Example: To address feminists accusing The Game as misogynistic, he prefaced each chapter with a quote by preeminent feminist scholars and their interpretation of the issue he was going to address in the chapter.

Every time you are interrupted it takes 45-60 minutes to get back into the groove

Leave your phone in the other room and silent when you are working. Have your writing space be uncluttered. Isolate yourself.

White Shoes principle

When things get challenging, every human instinct pulls you to do something less hard. For instance, to go clean your white shoes. For me when tasks get challenging I make popcorn. I realize now that when things get tough I can reframe it, “I can do that in 10 minutes”. The craving will go away.
When a question hits you, write it down on a sticky note, don’t open up the Browser

When writing avoid doing impromptu research. Instead, make a list while you write of all the things you want to research. Then give yourself 30 minutes to research all those topics.

Read more fiction
People who like Ferris, Strauss and Robert Greene tend to read a lot of Self-Help. I am a busy guy and I want my lessons in bullet points. But for millennia, humans have learned lessons through stories and tales. A good story can teach you empathy.
The Tim Ferriss Podcast, Ep 15: Neil Strauss, Author of The Game